21 Things I Learned Before Turning 21!!

I just turned 21 and what better way to start this year of my life by doing a list of 21 things I learned before I turned 21?? I would say I have learned some good life lessons and could give some decent advice, so why not share it on here? Okay!


  1. I am going to start off with something that I truly believe in. Something that a lot of people have a hard time doing (including me) is to just be nice to people. Be nice to everyone you meet because you don’t know what is going on in their life. If you’re eating out and your server messes up, they are not doing it on purpose. Maybe they are having a hard shift, maybe they are going through a hard time. Or if someone has different beliefs than you, that is no reason to treat someone like they are not worthy of your time. As a Christian, I have seen some Christians so not-so-Christian like things and say some things that I could not see Jesus approving of! Just because someone lives their life in a different way than you live yours, doesn’t mean you are any better.
  2. This one hits me hard, but really cherish the time that you have with your pets. I have seen this quote on Facebook more times than I can count and I have no clue who said it first, but it goes something like “your dog may only be part of your life, but you are their entire life” and that one really makes me really appreciate every moment I have with my doggies. You really are their whole world and they only know their life with you in it. 10 years may seem like a long time, but it is only a small portion of our life so you should not take for granted the time you have with them.
  3. Another one that hits close to home is to never take for granted the people in your life. As dark as it is, you do not know when you could lose someone close to you, so you should really appreciate the people in your life and make sure you really take in every moment. 
  4. Something that is hard for some people to learn is that when someone walks out of your life, it is for a good reason. Whether it is a break up or a friend leaving your life, it is always for a good reason. Maybe they were only in your life to teach you a life lesson that only they could teach you. Or maybe they needed to be in your life just long enough until you found someone who would be in your life permanently to lead you to a better life. Everything happens for a reason and some friendships don’t last forever!
  5. Take time for yourself once in a while! Right now on the internet everyone is talking about “self-care” and it is getting to a point where maaaybe people are going too far, but I genuinely think everyone needs to do something for them. Plan a vacation, have a night in, or take 30 seconds to meditate and clear your mind because life is freaking hard and work sucks sometimes!
  6. Stop judging people. Let that girl dye her hair pink and green and just let that boy paint his fingernails purple if he wants to. People get so mad about things that other people are doing even though it has nothing to do with them and it really confuses me. Just let people live, it’s not that hard!!
  7. Find some good podcasts to listen to. I have a handful of podcasts that I really love listening to for different reasons. I am someone who likes knowing stupid fun facts because I like to tell them later on to try to impress people and most of my fun facts are learned from podcasts. Another reason is in the morning right when I wake up I am usually grumpy, but if I listen to a funny podcast right when I start my day and I can get some laughs in, I start my day off in a good mood.
  8. Nothing from high school matters once you graduate. I graduated one semester early. ONLY ONE SEMESTER and when I came back for graduation only five months later, I literally did not care about most of the people there. Lol maybe that’s just me though!
  9. Be yourself!!! And don’t apologize for it. So many people just want to fit in, but if you aren’t happy then what’s the point? When you are truly yourself is when you make the friends that you deserve to have in your life and you find what makes you happy.
  10. Social media kinda sucks. When you go onto Instagram and Facebook, you have to realize that everyone is posting their highlights. When you are jealous of what their pictures look like, just know that there is stuff going on in their life that you have no clue about. Everyone has things going on, but they aren’t going to post a sad picture onto Instagram because they don’t want people to know about that side of them.
  11. One thing I have learned is that my relationship with God really isn’t defined by how often I go to church, it is more so about how I put Jesus in my day everyday. I pray and worship whenever I am feeling led to. I talk about God and tell people about my relationship with Him and do my best to tell people about how wonderful he is. Whenever I have the chance, I go out and help people how I know Jesus would want me to. My relationship with God is my own, and isn’t defined by how other people see it.
  12. When I know I have to do something, I tell myself that I have to and I really just force myself to do it. It is the same when it is the big things or little things. Forcing myself out of bed, starting a paper, putting on my shoes to work out, the list goes on. You really just have to push yourself and once you do that you realize that starting those things takes maybe ten seconds and that you wasted more time thinking about doing those things than actually doing them!
  13. Take a few minutes to really learn about something before forming your opinions. I’ll admit that I used to just read the title of an article and then right away form my opinion on that topic. Now when I see people doing that I’m like WOW you look so ignorant and dumb to the people who actually took three minutes to read the article!! But, yeah I’ve learned that you really need to educate yourself before getting into any arguments on things.
  14. Going along with the last one. I have learned to really keep an open mind about things. When going into conversations about political issues, I have noticed that a lot of people are so closed-minded that they won’t even listen to what you are saying because they don’t want to hear what could sometimes be the hard truth. This is about anything really, just keep an open mind!!
  15. Caffeine is addictive and is something that I am not willing to part with!! Friends may be temporary, but iced coffee is forever. I know what I said about being open-minded, but I would like for nobody to tell me anything negative about coffee. Thanks! Lol
  16. You are going to fail at things sometimes and that is O K. Sometimes what you need is to fail in order to push yourself harder.
  17. Plans change, life happens, nobody knows what is best for you besides yourself and God. Don’t let anyone dictate your future or tell you what is best for you, especially if you already have your heart set on something.
  18. MAKE GOALS and start them now. Don’t wait until the new year. Don’t wait until Monday. Don’t wait because once you start procrastinating, you will not stop.
  19. If you’re not the “partying type” then don’t let anyone pressure you into anything. Not everyone goes through a party phase in college.
  20. Take care of your hair! It is a big part of how you look and feel. I know that when my hair is a mess (honestly, most of the time) I feel like a mess. But just keep it healthy and find the best products for your hair. Ask your hair stylist and buy the products form their salon, not Walmart.
  21. You don’t need to have your life figured out!! You really don’t. Nobody REALLY has their life figured out, so it is ok that you don’t either. I certainly don’t! Just try your best and be happy and confident with every decision you make!

I really hope everyone enjoyed my 21 things I learned before turning 21 list. I love reading these and wanted to do one myself that I think others could enjoy reading as well. Thanks!!

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